Being a step-parent is a great challenge. While you love the children born to your spouse from a previous relationship, there is a sense of separation which naturally exists. They have another parent who may or may not be raising them. Another influence and bond embedded deep in blood and flesh. Stepping in you accept your early position as a stranger with great hope for the future when you will be much more than that. Relationship dynamics mitigate the transition to a degree, but if you are to truly be accepted into the hearts of these very important people in your life (not just your spouse’s), you must actively pursue them with humility, grace and unconditional love. Even when a healthy, loving relationship is established, the respect and love may not be the same kind of love they have for their natural parents. There is still another family they belong to and a careful balance between the two they are responsible to maintain. You see, being a step-child is also a great challenge.
But we are not step-children to our Father in heaven. He is not our step-father either. When we accepted Jesus as our Savior and set out to live the rest of our lives following Him, we became children of GOD; the maker of heaven and earth! Magnificent! Powerful! Holy! He is our perfect Daddy with a jealous love for us; He shares us with no one. We are completely and unequivocally His children. Does He draw us away from our earthly family? Does He cause our hearts to abandon our earthly family? Not likely. If anything, the exact opposite occurs. Our hearts are made more ready to love them with greater devotion than before. We are suddenly capable of unconditional love. We forgive completely because we have now been completely forgiven. Our relationships reflect a regenerated affection for the people in our lives by the infusion of His love and grace. Even more, we are united with an extended family of believers sharing the same kinship in Christ Jesus. He also perfects the “disfunctional” family and the bondage our painful upbringing may leave behind. It matters not if we are rejected by our earthly fathers, HE never rejects us. Even if we are abandoned by those who were called to care for us and protect us, HE never abandons us. As adopted children, we are His by the blood of Jesus, sealed by the Holy Spirit, and now heirs of the kingdom of God. He sees us as HIS precious children. He is our Daddy, our Abba; perfect in every way. Rejoice in that today!
Romans 8:15 …you have received the Spirit of adoption as sons, by whom we cry, “Abba! Father!”